Torn Between Work and Family

yeshi-kangrang-325341Dear Cosmic Career Coaches:

I am currently pretty confused about what direction my career should take?
I was working right out of graduation in a government job which I quit after having babies as I did not enjoy the job being too administrative. I imagine that I would enjoy a more dynamic job that allows me to travel abroad , however with young children now, my options are limited.

In order to have a career and yet have time for my kids , I’m wondering if I should consider a job in real estate sales that offers flexible schedule? However I’m not sure if I can make it in sales? and I’m more drawn towards the arts and a career that has more meaning. I am also interested in astrology and counseling but that requires me to further study for the relevant knowledge and skill set as right now I only have a generic business degree.

Another sensible option would be a shift job as a childhood teacher, that would match well with my current stage in life, however I have a feeling that I won’t have enough patience for young children (also the reason why I decide that I can’t be a full-time housewife looking after my kids ).

Marriage and family is very important to me so I feel torn between work and family. I am not certain of what talents or skills I can value add to a workplace, but I just know that I need an identity outside of marriage for me to stay sane. Really appreciate any advice or insights you can offer me from looking at my chart.

Thanks, Confused

Hi Confused, many thanks for reaching out.  I can sense the tension that’s happening for you!  It is clear that you need work outside the the house that challenges your mind, supports your understanding of yourself as an independent person and feels meaningful.  It is also clear you have family commitments that require this chapter of your work life be flexible and doesn’t necessarily require further education.

From your chart and from your note, I gather that choosing work solely for the schedule will not suffice and that as innately good at being a mom that you are, there’s a strong drive in you to contribute in additional ways.  In situations like these, I think you are on a helpful track to think about what talents and needs you have.  Here are a few I notice in your chart:

Contributions

  • Seeing the big picture
  • Giving of yourself generously
  • Investigating, research – finding what is really going on
  • Taking on challenges, leadership
  • Coming up with new ways of approaching things
  • Focus on things that feel deeply important

Logistical Needs

  • Autonomy, independence and freedom to set your own agenda and act on it
  • Variety of input and information
  • Mental stimulation
  • Expansive, broadening your experience of the world
  • Environment of trust

yuxiang-zhang-437423Could you be a great counselor (astrology or otherwise)?  Absolutely!  Could you also excel in real estate and other relationship based sales careers?  Totally!   Often when there seems like many options for what roles/titles you could do and it is confusing which one would be the best fit (for now and the future), I suggest looking through a different lens to alleviate some of the stuckness.

One such lens is looking at your search first through the eyes of sector.  While travel is difficult at this stage, perhaps focus on work that will bring an expansiveness to your mind.  Consider working at a local educational institution where you can be close to learning, take advantage of free lectures.

Another lens is to think about culture and mission.  What organizations are doing really innovative work that is helping people?  Are there places where you can really get behind their mission?

Looking at your chart, this upcoming year is a great time to look at these kinds of questions – how does you work life need to change?  When you get right down to it, what is at the core of what you want and need?

Sending good thoughts your way as you uncover what’s next!

If we can be of any additional help, feel free to reach out to me or Tom!

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Choosing a new direction

Your Question: I have been dealing with and some blocks to financial success in my music career and have been trying to break this pattern of bringing in the amount of money I desire through my passion, as well as overcoming procrastination and fears. I am wondering what is the best way to get my music to my fanbase so that I can become well known on a huge scale. I see this in my chart and in my future.

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Hi Dani,

I hear your natal Saturn speaking loud and clear but I’m initially curious about what you’ve been doing to grow your career.   Saturn makes a very nice aspect to your most elevated career indicator which includes Venus, your chart ruler.  Plus you have three 10th house planets with Venus being the most elevated.  That combined with your Leo energy, suggests a very strong desire to be working closely with the public.  Fears and worries arise from Saturn in Scorpio in your money house, which suggest you could put a lot of pressure on your Scorpio Moon in the 2nd house (emotions and financial security), Leo Sun (creative energy) and Leo Mars (fiercely competitive), to perform more and better.  Saturn likes to point out all the areas that aren’t up to snuff which generally leaves us unsatisfied until we’ve perfected and mastered the perceived weaknesses.

How we feel about Saturn calling us out is up to us but if you’re like so many people, you may sabotage your own progress.  If you were my client, I imagine the coaching would lead us to your Saturn to make sure your self-talk, thoughts and emotions are all in alignment with your ambitions.  Money of course is a big part of the overall equation with Saturn in your 2nd house.   You want money and you want to express yourself creatively, but Saturn forces us to look at every little detail and many times the payoff is delayed.  The Leo energy in your chart is very strong and wants to be noticed. It’s the actor that shows talent, charisma, charm and warmth.   

Anyway, 2017 looks like a significant year for you and it could turn out to be a memorable one.  It’s an important year when you want to make sure you think, imagine and dream big.  The potential is to be in the public eye more so than in the past.  When you put your energy out there in 2017, people will respond and you’ll be noticed.  If you’re not doing things in a big way this year or have a plans for growth in place, you may start feeling trapped by your work, so it’s important to keep your attention focused on your important goals so you can move towards them.

This year also looks like it could be a new beginning of sorts professionally.  Have you been working towards transforming your career, starting something different or simply doing things in a brand new way? This looks like the year when the seeds that you planted start to take root.  If you’ve been exploring various options for growing your career, this is probably a good time for you to get serious and nurture what it is you wish to cultivate.  If you’ve been thinking about moving, your chart shows this could be the year, more than likely for professional reasons.

There’s a solar eclipse next August which happens to land directly on your Leo Sun, the performer in your chart.  Solar eclipses tend to super charge the planet they touch.  So for your career in music, this should be a very important time.  Eclipses can indicate confusion but if that’s the case, it’s only because you’re gaining more insight and wisdom around this time and feel overwhelmed by so much new data.  Clarity will follow and the energy you’ve been putting out there can start to manifest in unexpected ways.   

Another thing that can help with 2017 is to restructure, reorganize, get your finances under control and develop or modify your plan for the future.  Typically, this is the year when you feel the need to buckle down and get serious.  Keeping yourself well organized, structured and freeing yourself of any unnecessary clutter helps.  

Thanks very much for your question.  I hope this helps.  Best of luck with your year. 

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Searching For Work – And Meaning

wonderskyQuestion: My current job has a lot of different parts to it, which is sometimes wonderful and exciting, and sometimes frustrating and exhausting.  As I look toward a new job, I am wondering two things: What questions can I ask myself to identify which “parts” of my job are most satisfying so I can focus my job search towards the most meaningful roles for me?  And how do I know if I should be searching for a position where I “wear a lot of hats,” (exciting and exhausting) or if I should be looking for a position where I can deeply focus on one skill set (which could be deeply satisfying and yet maybe, boring)?  – J

Hi J –

Thanks for your question! Preparing for a career change – especially one yet unknown in role and/or industry – can be challenging and draining. Let’s see what your chart has to say about meaningful work and the questions of variety vs. focus. Hopefully it will help you tap into internal energy and excitement that will serve you through your search!

Questions to focus your search on meaningful role:

  • Will the role:
    • Benefit humankind?
    • Promote fairness?
    • Allow for big picture, innovative thinking?
    • Include group work?
    • Manifest your values out in the world?
    • Allow autonomy?
    • Ask you to be bold and tap into your courage?
    • Provide stability so you can truly engage?
    • Require you to take action on behalf of others?
    • Provide tangible value to your community?

One useful resource: Astrology for the Soul by Jan Spiller (read North Node in Taurus)

Multiple Hats vs. One Skill Set

In your chart, two very different abilities show up when looking at the way your mind works.

On one hand, you have exceptionally clear judgment and prefer practical, goal-oriented pursuits that are achieved through focus and drive. You are methodical and enjoy teaching and learning through a step-by-step approach. Integrity is of key importance.

On another, it is natural for you to take in as much information as you possibly can. You have an unending curiosity and desire to learn. You crave dwelling in possibility and thrive on the variety of life.

So, what does that mean for your search? The short answer is you need an outlet for both parts of your personality.

Look for work where you are encourage to engage with the world from a standpoint of curiosity about others. One that requires information gathering. A role that encourages you to actively learn and teach.

Make sure the role asks that once you have the information and connections, you are expected to focus and do something concrete. A role that expects leadership and achievement.

You are a transformer of people and process, who deeply cares about the world. We need your gifts out there!

One useful resource: Café Astrology (Gemini Rising, Mercury Capricorn)

Hope these are helpful to you, and best on your journey!

Truly,
Aubrie

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